Why aren't you in a relationship?


I swear, I get this question at least once a week. It's becoming draining. 

 The pressure from family and friends is definitely up there. And If you've ever had the privilege of meeting my mother, you know how intense she can be. I've even had a couple of patients try to set me up with their sons, nephews, brothers, etc. #toomuch I appreciate everyone's concern. Really, I do. But I'm totally content in my singleness... at least for now.

What? No. Can't Be. She lying. For real? YES!

Relationships require a lot of work. And at this time, I need to be focusing my energy toward working on myself. Follow me, here: 

  • How can I require xyz from someone, if I'm not offering xyz?
  • What is it I need to work on within myself?

Too vague,  Okay. Let's be clear! 

  • I want a Godly or God- fearing man, but how's my relationship with God?
  • I want a man who can handle his finances, however, are my accounts where they should be? Does my budget balance? How is my portfolio trending?
  • I want a man who is ambitiously achieving his dreams, am I ambitiously knocking out my life goals?
  • I want a man with a nice car and his own place, have I achieved such possessions?
  • I want a man who truly loves me, yet am I willing to become vulnerable enough to allow him the chance to do so? Am I emotionally available?
  • His body needs to be A1, yet is my body model status? curves tight? 
  • I want a man who is a leader, but can I submit and follow?
  • I want a man who respects my opinions, do I respect his?
  • I want a man who treats me like a Queen, yet do I return the favor? 
  • I want a man, am I a woman? Do I embody the characteristics of one? (Some may need to reread.)
  • I want my man to be my best friend. Yet do I know what it means to be a  best friend to another or even myself? 

(SN: This post is in first person. Nevertheless, you may need to question yourself.)

I could go on and on, yet the point remains the same. It starts with myself. Do I have a lot to offer, of course! But my work isn't done. At least, not for the relationship I want. Both parties need to be bringing quality to the table. One sided relationships are never everlasting.

So why aren't you in a relationship? Because the energy needed for a relationship, I've decided to focus it towards personal growth and self discovery. 

I'm not saying not to date or not to be in a relationship. 

I'm saying be the reflection in the mirror. Establish in yourself, what you want to see in your partner. And your dream person will come!


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Eat the cake, Anna Mae!

Throw your own party and celebrate the Micro wins. 

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Do you ever find yourself in a rut? You know, the feeling of just going through the motions. Same ole same ole, day in and day out. Or maybe, this isn’t you and you’re just waiting for your moment to shine. Shining, also known as, the moment you accomplish something so big everyone can’t help but notice. The praise will come rushing in like the water from a broken damn headed towards the town. Increasing your serotonin levels just enough to boost you out of your funk and back into your happy go jolly self, again.

Does this sound like you?

If so, you’re not alone. In fact, it’s vary common in high achievers. Those of us constantly pushing toward accomplishing the next big thing. You know the Macro wins of life. Macro wins? Macro wins are the moments high achievers crave. The moments that create the big praise. The rush of being congratulated, recognized, or honored.

Here are a few examples:

  1. Graduating High school or College
  2. Buying your first car
  3. Obtaining first mortgage
  4. Getting married
  5. Starting a business
  6. Writing a book
  7. Establishing MSI (Multiple streams of income.)

You get the picture. It’s the finished product people often see after you’ve gone through the grunt work, not- so- easy processes, or struggles to finally cross that finish line. These are Macro wins, and boy do they feel great!

Macro wins, got it. Now, what about the Micro wins?

Think about the Macro wins as the goal you want to accomplish, and the micro wins would be the ample number of tasks needed to accomplish the overall goal.

For example:

The Macro win = starting a business.

The micro wins = creating the business plan, branding material such as a name, logo,etc., and acquiring funding.

“There are at least 10 micro wins for every 1 Macro win.” -Lisa Nichols

Remember not to work yourself into a rut or get burned out from not taking the time to recognize the struggles, sacrifices, and energy that goes into accomplishing the Macro win. People only see things from the outside, or the finished product. Don’t let thier praise be the only time you celebrate. Be your own motivation and celebrate yourself!

“Baby no I don’t play, now eat the cake, Anna Mae. Said, “Eat the cake, Anna Mae!” I’m nice, for y’all to reach these heights you gonna need G3…” -Jay Z

Celebrate those Micro wins. You deserve it!


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Journaling the Journey: Entry 1

God is so good y’all!

When I just think about how true that statement is... it's overwhelming. I mean no matter the situation, you can always find something to praise and give God glory. Amen!

Today, I had the day off. And I spent it working on my new MSI (Multiple stream of income) I know for sure I want this to be a business. I've put a lot of work in already, and feel as though I have a solid foundation of knowledge. 

But what’s holding me back?


I'm afraid I'll fail. Especially, since running this particular business or establishing this MSI would require me to put myself out there. There being in the fore front. There being in the public's eyes. I mean what if this venture doesn't get received well. 

I've never been one to win popularity contest. I'm more of the you either like me or you don't type. I held the President, VP, or Treasury titles not the Homecoming Queen, if you catch my point. 

Now, as I'm writing this entry it's dawning on me: 

Everyone’s not going to like you. And that is okay. You can not make everyone happy.

In other words, the ones who do like you, support, and cheer in your corner, you know chose to be there. They are the ones who genuinely care for you. And that feeling (knowing people are in your corner because they want to be) beats winning a popularity contest and not knowing who truly cares. 

Realistically speaking, I'm only 21. If this whole new business venture doesn't work out as planned than at the very least I can say I tried. Better to fail forward than to never act. 

Being an entrepreneur is not for the faint at heart.

Lord give me the strength!


Simone Danielle. 

You ain't got the answers, Sway!

It's Your Life To Live, However, Are You Living For Yourself Or Others?

Let's start off with a typical conversation that most, especially college students, have had to entertain on numerous occasions ranging from family gatherings, Sunday service at church, even the routine visit to the family dentist office.

It's so good to see you, again? Tell me, How's school going? Not too much longer, what year are you? Do remind me, What's your major? // So do you a boyfriend (girlfriend) yet? No, why not? (Oh really, how long have y'all been a thing?) // What's your plans post college? What kind of job to you expect to get with that degree? 

Do you really want to know? I mean, really? Or are you just making pointless conversation? Do you have a network contact to exchange for this info? Either way, I can almost guarantee majority of college students have the typical standard script of answers to these questions. If you must know, we keep them in our back pockets! Here's an example for the scenario above: 

I'm a senior at Georgia State University in Atlanta. Dual Majoring in Business Economics and Business Finance with a minor in Spanish. In addition, I plan to acquire a TEFL certificate. No, I do not have boyfriend at this time. College is enough. Graduate school for International Business is a thought post graduation. 

I'm sure majority of the people, who ask these questions have good intentions. However, I'm more than my college degree, relationship status, or  the job I'm hoping to acquire post graduation. Can we dig a little deeper? Ask me about my aspirations, goals, passions, etc. What are my inspirations? Now, that's a conversation where I would love to be a participant. 

Because to be honest, I don't have my whole life figured out contrary to the answer above. I do not know. I'm still figuring it out. Twenties are our time to discover. Today,  I maybe a business major, but next year I could very well be in my counselors office inquiring mechanical engineering. #plottwist. God forbid, I take a hiatus. *Cues glances of all hope being lost* 

I mean, we're literally forcing eighteen year old, high school seniors, to map out their entire college career and many times post life rather quickly. Society is so hell bent on preaching college, marriage, career, and happy ever afters. But that formula does not work for everyone. Who said that's the picture of success? happiness? a fulfilling life?

Sometime's I just want to shout to society.. YOU AIN'T GOT THE ANSWERS!

Well who has the answers? YOU. 

Take the time to dig deep and self discover for your own sake. It would be lovely to get asked questions that help to spark the endless possibilities life has to offer. Unfortunately, most just want to know how's school going. Yet ultimately, the buck starts and stops with you. You are responsible for  your own life. No one else. Follow that little voice inside of you, let it guide you. Don't hide behind the fancy script you've got in your back pocket to appease society. 

To the girl that has always dreamed of being a doctor, I'm not saying you should not go to college. I'm saying elevate yourself and you may discover you have a passion for the heart. A cardiologist may just be your calling rather than pediatrics like grandma was pushing.  

It's your life to life,however, are you living for yourself or others?

The answers are inside of you. 

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